Unfiltered

-Written by Stan-

Each of us comes equipped with a psychological mechanism that enables us to “filter” our thoughts and responses to various life situations. For example, when someone who is overweight bumps into us in the hallway, rather than responding with the first thought that comes to our mind (“Get out my way, you big fat idiot!”), we “filter” our response so that what comes out is more polite and appropriate (“Oh, please excuse me, Sir. It was all my fault.”). Thank God for filters!

But what happens if the filter is removed?

I’m not smart enough to explain medically what happens in a stroke but watching Katy these past three and a half weeks has given me an education. Part of what often happens in brain trauma is that the “filters” through which one normally lives one’s life are taken away and responses to stimuli are more, well, let me say “raw,” “spontaneous,” and “unfiltered.” Loud noise, pain, confusion, and interruptions provoke a response that comes out without all of the buffering benefits of the filters we normally use when we are healthy and strong. Typically, the picture is not pretty. Frankly, I tremble to think what I would be like if I suddenly I found myself the victim of a stroke, lying paralyzed in a hospital bed, living without the filters I normally use to shield the world around me from the inner person I really am. Lord, have mercy on us all!

This month I’ve had the privilege of living beside an “unfiltered” Katy and I simply want to share the marvel of witnessing the life of someone who has allowed God’s sanctifying grace to clean up not only the outside of one’s life, but the inside as well! Katy’s reactions to pain, paralysis, confusion and interruptions, even without the filters, continue to be seasoned with gentleness, love, humor and a deep concern for others first. Amazing! To be honest, seeing the unfiltered depth of Katy’s walk with Jesus has brought me to new understanding of what God wants to do in every human heart. I find myself sitting beside her bed as she sleeps praying that the sanctifying blood of Christ and the outpoured Spirit of Pentecost would do a new and deeper work in me.

Update  – All three of Katy’s therapy sessions today were before noon which made for a rough morning but she pushed through and even pedaled for 15 minutes on a special bike! We were so proud of her. She continues to fight nausea and pain and side effects from different meds she is on so you can continue to pray for wisdom and for her body to continue to heal and be restored.  Thank you!

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40 thoughts on “Unfiltered

  1. This is what Dr. Kinlaw has talked about for years . . . so glad that so many are seeing it up close and personal. May eyes be opened and hearts be melted. God did this in Jeff and me, for HIs glory! And Jeff and I rejoice at the work Jesus is doing in Katy’s physical body. He is healing her!

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    1. John and I are praying continuously for Katy and your family. We are trusting that God will heal Katy, and you will be blessed for your unwavering faith. Your family is an inspiration to us. Love, John and Wendy

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  2. I am in awe of your strength Katy! Stan and immediate family, I pray for more of God’s grace as you pass through this time with each other.

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  3. Stan
    I just started my second year of reading Face to Face. Starting over I went right to the beginning of the book and reread the dedication page and I quote “To Katy, my wife and my friend. You have taught me more about God than anyone.” Even in times of difficulty it is easy to see this is still true. Continued prayers for Katy and your entire family as you deal with new challenges. Grace and peace to you all.

    Proverbs 31; 10-31

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  4. Stan, thank you for sharing about the filters. It’s really scary to think of not having them, especially when helpless! It’s an amazing testimony to God in Katy’s life. I’m praying for you all.

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  5. Stan, What a beautiful description of our Katy! She is a marvel and such a witness of God’s loving faithfulness. For that matter, so are you! I learn so much from both of you every time I visit. What a privilege it is to journey through this life with the two of you on good days as well as on days filled with challenges. Our hearts, love and prayers are with both of you every single day. God bless! Best, Sherry

    Dr. Sherry W. Powers Dean, School of Education Professor Asbury University One Macklem Drive Wilmore, Kentucky 40390 Office: 859-858-3511 ext. 2208 Fax: 859-858-3921

    From: Journey with Katy <comment-reply@wordpress.com> Reply-To: Journey with Katy <comment+eq-lopctdg8wsdikhprk4go@comment.wordpress.com> Date: Thursday, January 7, 2016 5:31 PM To: “Powers, Sherry” <Sherry.Powers@asbury.edu> Subject: [New post] Unfiltered

    lizlind posted: “-Written by Stan- Each of us comes equipped with a psychological mechanism that enables us to “filter” our thoughts and responses to various life situations. For example, when someone who is overweight bumps into us in the hallway, rather than responding”

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  6. Beautifully written, Stan! As a nurse (and from my Nurse Practitioner daughter), I would like to suggest Zofran for Katy’s nausea. Ask the RN or doctor about that. Years ago, after a vascular hemorrhage, I would have done anything to be relieved of the nausea. Keeping your beloved family in our prayers, the bisnetts

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    1. Thank you so much for the recommendation. She has been on Zofran and it typically does alleviate her nausea. Yesterday however it did not but we continue to figure out some of the causes and work to alleviate what we can. Thank you for your love and tips and prayers! We appreciate it!

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  7. Please send our love to Katy. We are praying for Katy’s full recovery and peace, strength, and courage for her and the beloved Key family.

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  8. Beautifully written! Thank you for sharing, even with all you and your girls are walking through right now. Beloved Katy, praying for you continually. I’m not surprised to hear that the “unfiltered” Katy is every bit as gracious and God-honoring as she has always been. With grateful heart, I marvel at her unwavering trust in God through every circumstance. And this, possibly her most difficult trial, witnesses to her love for, and total surrender to God in every moment, every breath. We all pray fervently for Katy’s total restoration of good health and for complete freedom of pain for her. God bless you all, we love you, and are praying for the Lord’s goodness to touch Katy.. Thank you for sharing with us all daily. It helps us stay connected and tells us how to pray for all of you.

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  9. I was just ruminating on this very testimony myself last night! To watch Katy’s responses in the daily blogs has brought me to a new place of realizing that I want and need to Lord to do a greater transforming work in me as well. Katy’s example has set a high bar for all of us and I pray that when she is fully healed we can have a praise service for all the Lord did through her beautiful example of grace. She is changing lives around the globe — living out her purpose to love others even in her pain. One amazing lady! Praying tonight for full healing and continued grace in the fire.

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  10. Dear Stan and Katy, Tim and I call out your names to Jesus every day and sometimes multiple times a day. You are a living testimony of Psalm 71:5, “For You are my hope, O Lord God, You are my trust from my youth and the source of my confidence.” Trusting God is allowing you to enter His rest; a place of peace. Jesus is fighting for Katy as she does the hard work of rehab. I continue to remind Jesus that I am trusting Him to take care of Stan, Katy and all in their family. Although the distance if far, we are right there with you!

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  11. Thank you for sharing those words of encouragement. Her faith is so deep and such an inspiration despite all she is going through. I pray daily for complete restoration of health and function for our sweet Katy. I also pray for strength for you and the girls. I so look forward to the daily updates. God bless you all – sending my love and hugs to all of you.🙏❤️

    Blessings, Nancy Mason

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  12. Thank you for your candor, Stan! I am so impressed by the honesty you all share from the heart. You are all, including/especially Katy, a wonderful example to all of us. Will continue to pray for Katy and all of you.

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  13. Very interesting about filtered & unfiltered comments. The Scripture that came to mind was that “man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.” The fact that God sees our unfiltered heart should make us want to be more like Jesus-something to think on each day. The LORD has seen all that beauty in Katy’s heart, and now others can see it also. Thanks for sharing with us. We continue to keep Katy, you Stan & the family in prayer.

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  14. Dear Stan,
    What a wild ride you and your family are on, yet our mighty God is your pilot and I pray that He will daily meet all of your needs. You and Katy have been such a blessing to so many. I am not surprised that God is using you in this most difficult way for His glory. Our bible study group meets with you and the Master every morning through “Face to Face”. (Can we get more copies?) They would be great gifts for my friends. We have also been blessed with your new book, “The Last Word”.which we are going to use for our next bible study. I love your wonderful sense of humor, honesty, intelligence, wisdom and candid walk with our Lord. I know you are in the middle of a bumpy ride, but we are all praying for a smooth landing! Please give Katy a big kiss from all the Gardners! And, by the way, all the flies have been permanently removed from the Hen House! Katy might get a chuckle out of that! May God continue to richly bless you and your family.
    With much love,
    Lynn Gardner

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  15. Very interesting about filtered & unfiltered comments. The Scripture that came to mind was that “man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.” God looks at each of our unfiltered hearts; that should make us want to be more like Jesus. The LORD sees the beauty in Katy’s heart and now others can witness it as well. We continue to keep Katy, you Stan & the family in prayer.

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  16. Thank you, Stan, for your helpful words on filters, those things we all use. Glad to hear the report on Katy. Your daily e-mails are so great and such a help in knowing how to pray.

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  17. Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing your lives with us. God hears and answers prayers, continuing to pray for y’all. One day at a time…moment by moment God is fulfilling His story through your lives. You have been a blessing to us and continue to be. I know the plans I have for you…

    Soyez encouragé

    Gene and Denise Hadley

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  18. Stan & Katy,
    I have been praying for all of ever since hearing of Katy’s stroke. The updates written by you and your daughters have challenged, inspired, and blessed me immeasurably. Please know that I will continue to pray. Your family has been special to me ever since my days rooming with Vangie at Asbury. Blessings to all of you!
    Brenda

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  19. This is so beautiful Stan! We always knew Katy was special and her walk was deep but so cool to hear you describe it now in terms of her new reality with the stroke. Praying for her pain and nausea to go away. Love you both tons, Sherri

    Sherri Letchford PT, DPT, C/NDT Director of Allied Health and Clinical Head of Physiotherapy AIC Kijabe Hospital, Kenya

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  20. Wow. While not shocking to hear of Katy’s responses, I am still amazed knowing my own unfiltered heart. Grateful for that. It is sometimes so painful for families to witness a less positive lack of filtering…

    Love from Kenya Mike

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  21. Precious Katy,
    It is humbling to follow your life journey these past couple weeks. The purity of your heart and life permits us to see the saturated presence of The Holy Spirit living within you…”when we are weak, Christ is strong.” Not only is He strong within you, He is drawing others to want to be like you, 100% covered by the Bllod of the Lamb.
    Thank you for spurring us on in our Faith.

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  22. You are waking to a new day with unique challenges. Who would have thought this would be the glory of The Lord would beam brightest, who would have thought His tender mercies would be most obvious. Who would have imagined a life tragedy could most beautifully be the means by which He could revel His triumph? May God bring strength to your weary souls and energy to Katie ‘a limbs! What a battle she is facing. I’m praying His fellowship with her in this suffering will be sweeter than each day before! We imagine His grand work happening in such different circumstances. Oh to Trust our loving Savior in the hard situations. May the beauty of Jesus be seen on Katie’s face in the sweat of the PT sessions, the frustration of such huge limitations she has been called to bear. Loving each of you through prayer!

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  23. Thank you, Neighbor, for your honest posts that help us all know how to pray for you all and to walk alongside you in this difficult journey, which you did not choose, but which God allowed and is using for His glory. We ask Him and look forward to greater glory as He does His continued healing work in Katy’s life. What a precious testimony to the blessing of a truly surrendered life that shines through in spite of all the trauma her body has suffered! May God continue to provide all the grace all of you need in this journey. We would love to visit Katy sometime, but want to wait until we get the green light from you, her family. We don’t want to make things more difficult for you, so just wait until she and you are ready for visitors and, of course, to lift you all to His throne daily.

    Priscilla and Dennis

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  24. thank you for your families faithful updates on Katy’s progress. What a blessing and encouragement she is to us. We continue to pray for her and all of the Keys!

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  25. Well said regarding the filters. I have witnessed myself people whom love the Lord, but when life is at their last season, the filters seem to come off and an education is to be had. I have also witnessed lives who love the Lord and that love transcends into the most compassionate, gentle, loving spirit. What a blessing for you and your family to see the trueness of her love of the Lord and the fullness of her spiritual condition. Being a witness to that love sure brings great comfort to the people around them and it does draw the person closer to the Lord in holiness. I know with me it’s ‘Lord please create in me this kind of gentleness, compassion and love.’ God bless you all and through your witness of your testimony, it has truly touch other lives around you as we are on the outside looking in. Much prayers and continued healing. Love you all!

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  26. Dearest brother Stan and Katy and family

    Unfiltered other side of us as you, Stan, described is very true and real…have seen many in my former and current professions….

    Yet, by the almighty grace and mercy and love of our God, Katy is living witness of our Savior whose blood, by only His, could we be cleansed for His glory.

    Thank you giving me hope for others as much for myself so needed now (not b/c of illness but the heart issue)…thanks.

    Love and blessings

    Lisa Liu

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  27. Dear Stan and Katy:
    Every day before we begin our prayer time we turn to your blog to read your comments. They have helped immensely to direct our prayers for you. We have been praying not only for both of you and your daughters, but for your siblings, Katy, and for your beloved father, Dr. Kinlaw, for as Paul says, “when one suffers, we all suffer, just as when one rejoices, we all rejoice.” Please know that we are available to help in any way, and all we need is to hear from you.
    With love and gratitude,
    Vic and Shirley

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  28. Stanley & family, God led me to read an old classic by E Stanley Jones “The Way To Power & Poise”. It is incredible. He uses nature, the biological body, & our spiritual soul to illustrate how God changes us from the inside out…much like the sick body as it seeks to heal from illness. I have posted week 1, Thursday on FB. It is so very powerful! We are praying for Katy’s FULL recovery in Our Father’s Almighty Hands! Love you all, Theresa Flanders ():) along with several Bible Study groups of Dublin FUMC

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  29. I am sorry it has taken us so long to actually be a follower of the blog. We have been keeping up with them on Facebook but now we can comment ! What a marvelous example of sanctification this is Stan! Thank you for sharing! We are praying in Albany GA. There are a number of people in our church who have really felt led to pray and we talk about it every Sunday. This story, this blog, you all and of course Katy are a witness down here!

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